Learning how to empathize with others successfully can make all the difference in the world. Sometimes in the heat of the moment we don't always look at things from the other person's perspective. This is in no way saying we necessarily have to agree with them, but respect what they are going through. Many times people simply need to be heard and want to vent their frustration. It can be easy to take these types of situations personally when they are not.
This is something I personally work on each and everyday being a IT Specialists. People typically are calling in because they aren't happy as you can assume. How do I personally handle these situations? First I allow them to voice their concerns while listening for key words on how I'm going to resolve their problem. Next I let them know they were heard by restating their concerns. Why do this? Because it has been proven people become less defensive when this happens. They feel like someone cares and is actually going to help them out.
Remember these skills can be applied to both your personal and professional life alike!
Here are 7 Habits that Highly Effective People use to Empathize
1. They are fully present with others.Empathetic people have a way of making you feel like you're the only one in the room. When they interact with someone, they give that person the gift of their full attention and respect, which is rare in today's hyper-distracted world.
2. They've mastered the art of active listening.To truly support someone, you must first understand that person. Empathetic people take the time to understand their counterpart's priorities, preferences, and motivations. This requires listening non-judgmentally and leaving your assumptions at the door. Empathetic people use active listening skills to gain insight, including:
3. They tune into nonverbal communication.Communication runs deeper than words alone. If you notice someone tensing up, pulling away, or suddenly dodging eye contact, those are important clues that you can use empathy to reach out.
Rather than ignoring the emotion gently -- and with kindness -- ask them to describe what's happening for them. This gives people the freedom to share their feelings openly, knowing they won't be judged or criticized. Letting emotions flow freely can be a gateway to productive problem-solving.
4. They pause. In an effort to be helpful, we often jump in to finish people's sentences, offer advice, or interrupt. Empathetic people know how powerful silence can be. They don't interrupt or talk over other people. They think before they speak.
5. They replace giving advice with asking questions.Instead of offering their opinion, empathetic people ask questions to better understand another person's perspective, like:
6. They speak in terms of "we," not "me."Empathetic leaders shift to talking about how they'll tackle challenges as a team -- speaking in terms of "we" and "us" -- so other people feel empowered and supported.
Research shows changing your language is step toward adopting an empathic attitude. People who use more second-person pronouns are better at interpreting others' thoughts, feelings, and behaviors -- the essence of empathy.
When you want to genuinely connect with someone, create a bond by talking about your shared goals (i.e., "Let's talk about what we're going to do next to solve this," "We'll get through this").
7. They imagine others' point of view.Empathetic people practice a skill called "perspective taking." In other words, they step into other people's shoes to imagine what fears they might be facing.
Do this exercise yourself by practicing (internally) to assume that person's point of view. Especially when you're dealing with a difficult person, it's important to assume positive intent. That is, give people the benefit of the doubt that they are coming from a respectful place, not a malicious one.
This mindset shift can do wonders for your mood and ensure you stay in an emphatic state.
Even if you have moments where you're less compassionate than you'd like, following these highly emphatic habits can help you keep what's important at the forefront: connection.
Original Post by Melony Wilding https://www.inc.com/melody-wilding/7-habits-of-highly-empathetic-people.html